Why mediate?

Mediation can save you time, money and heartache in family law litigation. The purpose of mediation is to work together with the other party or parties to come up with a solution that's mutually beneficial.  The goal in mediation is not to "win" or get everything you want, but to find ways work together through compromise. 

In family law, mediation is especially beneficial as it allows the parties to work together and avoid costly litigation. If your divorce includes custody issues, mediation allows you to put the kids first in determining custody and child support issues. 

A typical mediation can be scheduled either for a half day (4 hours) or full day (8 hour) session.  Your lawyer attends with you, if you have retained counsel.  The mediation may have all parties meet together at first to lay the ground rule for mediation. After that initial meeting, the parties separate into different rooms and the mediator goes between the two, working out a possible settlement.  You, as a party to the mediation, are in control of what information the mediator tells the other party. A mediator should not disclose any information that you do not want disclosed.  If an agreement is reached, the mediator draws up a Mediated Settlement Agreement and both parties sign. The agreement is considered binding and will be filed with the court to show the Judge that an agreement was reached. It is then the attorney's responsibility to draw up the final order.

Mediator styles vary. My approach is to be practical, upfront and to not sugar coat issues, but at the same time aware that most parties in mediation are going through very trying circumstances.  Your lawyer is there to advise you of legal issues and protect your best interests. My job is to help you come to a place of compromise and leave with an agreement you may not love but you can live with .